A huntin' we will go, for a midwife

Allow me to recap on the last three babies in as few words as possible:

Institutionalized, Stressful, Unconnected, Deceitful 

I guess that makes it sounds terrible, though none of my births have been bad, they have all left me with a bitter regret of not doing a home birth

Either because i was young and naive or because the "midwifes" didn't care about my wants and needs, or because the doctors think their Sh** don't stink... i have had one glaring problem or another, regardless of hospital or birthing center or military base.

So this one i decided, against all of my friends and families wishes, to do a home birth. Well, i haven't told anyone outside of my house so i really couldn't tell you for sure if it would be against their wishes but they all think i am radical for some reason and i doubt this would be much different "there she goes being a hippy again" haha i say this in good humor, cause i really am kind of a hippy :P

I have a friend that has had four successful home births and loves her midwife, CPN, so i emailed her a few days ago and got her midwifes info.

I did a bit of research on her before calling and found a little bit of questionable information... for instance she had her license to practice suspended, for two cases, one which resulted in the death of a baby. After looking through the paper case work and a few news articles i came to my own conclusion that her only fault was doing what the mother wanted.

I also ran across a good deal of Good Reviews, people saying how much they love her and how great their birth experience was, and this was helpful.

I also looked up some CNM's and the closest ones were in Alexandria, and Richmond, neither of which would drive to me because traffic in the dc metro area is HORRENDOUS. Even though i was in the 50 mile radius for the Alexandria midwifes they didn't want to sit in traffic :/ they instead said i should drive to them. NOT going to happen... Baby 3 came one hour after i started feeling contractions, my water broke when his HEAD ruptured it, i don't think driving an hour away would be conducive to a pleasant birth experience, nor would my car smell nice afterwards!!!

So i scheduled to meet with my Lori on Monday, during babysitting time, so hopefully it will go smoothly and she and i connect

I have always wanted to have a midwife that actually cared about me and my baby. Someone who didn't just see me as another miserable pregnant lady with a big dollar sign stamped to my for head

I have at times felt like my midwife cared, only to come to the delivery room at midnight and them leave a few minutes later... or to not even call and see how things are going, or to come say i am doing good, but they are going on break and never come back :/

Maybe my expectations are just to high, but i don't think so. I have this idealistic view of "midwifes before hospital births" The local grama's and experienced moms rush over to so and so's house just in time to see the midwife (the village elder with 55 grand kids, whose been waiting patiently at the house for the past few days for labour to start) deliver the baby and hand her over to the new mom... there are hugs and love all around, pats on the backs and offers to clean up and make dinner... the dad is beaming and proud and relieved and the whole village celebrates that night while the new parents get acquainted with the newest town addition. Cheesy Yes, True, i think at some point it was... 

i am no scholar but wouldn't the world be a better place if every new baby was a community celebration.