One way to ensure i gain way to much weight this pregnancy is NEEDING to eat or i will throw up. I believe that my pregnancy sickness is finally waning, but it comes with stipulations: Eat or Vomit
Its an easy decision right? Eat, or vomit... eat or be completely and utterly miserable whilst also throwing up your stomach fluids.
Its not that easy though. First off, with the busy summer schedule that i have bestowed upon myself, it is all but impossible to be eating all the time. Diapers, swim, boo boo's, messes, nosy children, field trips, cleaning, whining, more diapers. Some where in there i not only have to find time to eat, but also find something to eat(that is an even larger problem, being as i can't stand the sight or smell of most every thing)
There is another caveat. A shallow issue to most, but an important issue to me. I like being skinny. I always gain weight in a weird way for pregnancies and i just don't like the way i look or feel... My face gains weight before anything else and my back(not my butt) gets thicker, and then my everything else gains weight.
Most pregnant women gain enough to fill out their pregnancy clothes in their non pregnant size, and then complain about losing pregnancy weight. Well ladies and gents(or all ladies i guess) i gain enough to fill out my non pregnant sized pregnancy clothes and then go up two sizes by the end (not just because my belly gets bigger) I start off to small for my extra small pregnancy clothes and wind up in a medium by the last month or so. Not only is this bad for my psyche, but also my pocket book... by now, yes i have the sizes to cover my intense weight gain up to the end of my pregnancy... but i also have to have the clothes to cover my weight loss from a size 11 back to a size 2... not as easy on my pocket book.
I knew a lady in college that was quite small like i am(about 15 lbs smaller acutally), and she had 5 kids and she would gain 100 lbs every child!!!! and then lose it all again... that wasn't her being lazy or anything, that was just how her body handled pregnancy... so i am not as bad off as i could be, but me starting the pregnancy off having to EAT constantly to keep myself well enough to function isn't doing myself any good :(
Saturday, July 27, 2013
Tuesday, July 23, 2013
Baby Names!!
After much deliberation (i guess not that much a few texts) the names have been decided
For a girl: Miranda Jane
For a boy: Henry Asher
The girl name has been decided for long before i was pregnant, but the boy name has come as quite a surprise to me. I had my heart set on Torbin Asher, and the hubs thought that was a terrible name. Me, being the stubborn person that i am, rather than looking for a name that husband likes, i have been spending my time trying to convince him that Torbin is awesome.
Then Yesterday he sends me a text that says Henry Asher... at first i laugh because he has been trying to convince me of Henry since first baby, because he wants to give him the nick name of Hank (not going to happen) But after i laughed i realized how good it really sounds this time... It isnt that the name Changed any, i guess it has been my tastes that have changed, and i like it
I like it so much that i almost want this baby to be a boy, so we can have a little Henry!
But i also still really want a girl!
For a girl: Miranda Jane
For a boy: Henry Asher
The girl name has been decided for long before i was pregnant, but the boy name has come as quite a surprise to me. I had my heart set on Torbin Asher, and the hubs thought that was a terrible name. Me, being the stubborn person that i am, rather than looking for a name that husband likes, i have been spending my time trying to convince him that Torbin is awesome.
Then Yesterday he sends me a text that says Henry Asher... at first i laugh because he has been trying to convince me of Henry since first baby, because he wants to give him the nick name of Hank (not going to happen) But after i laughed i realized how good it really sounds this time... It isnt that the name Changed any, i guess it has been my tastes that have changed, and i like it
I like it so much that i almost want this baby to be a boy, so we can have a little Henry!
But i also still really want a girl!
Tuesday, July 16, 2013
Swim Lessons and Vomit
I don't believe that i am still "pregnancy sick" i think my vomiting spells are purely circumstantial. For instance, if i don't eat dinner till 7:00 when lunch was 7 hours ago... apparently this baby NEEDS food.
I wake up feeling great in the morning (other than my sinuses draining and swelling) and then if breakfast isn't fast enough i get queasy (easy fix though) and then we pack up and go to swim lessons
This week has been a tough heat wave for the whole of Virginia. So we pack up three umbrellas and lots of water and ice packs and go in nothing but swim suits, and we get there and get out of the car, and my energy is immediately drained. I don't look pregnant yet (just kinda paunchy in the midsection) so people are probably like "what is wrong with that chic?" i drag my self the walk to the pool sit down and try to stifle the urge to vomit... and then continue to feel miserable for the next 3 hours that are swim lessons.
I try to sit in the kiddy pool when it gets unbearable, but (a) you have to pay to go in the pool and (b) it doest help that much because the water is somewhat warm also.
This is the last session of swim (that i or my husband are willing to sign up for) and i am grateful that i wont be sitting out in the heat feeling like i am melting and sweating out my precious few calories that i can keep down.
Summer is almost over and then that bliss full day when i can put on a light hoodie will be upon us!!!
I wake up feeling great in the morning (other than my sinuses draining and swelling) and then if breakfast isn't fast enough i get queasy (easy fix though) and then we pack up and go to swim lessons
This week has been a tough heat wave for the whole of Virginia. So we pack up three umbrellas and lots of water and ice packs and go in nothing but swim suits, and we get there and get out of the car, and my energy is immediately drained. I don't look pregnant yet (just kinda paunchy in the midsection) so people are probably like "what is wrong with that chic?" i drag my self the walk to the pool sit down and try to stifle the urge to vomit... and then continue to feel miserable for the next 3 hours that are swim lessons.
I try to sit in the kiddy pool when it gets unbearable, but (a) you have to pay to go in the pool and (b) it doest help that much because the water is somewhat warm also.
This is the last session of swim (that i or my husband are willing to sign up for) and i am grateful that i wont be sitting out in the heat feeling like i am melting and sweating out my precious few calories that i can keep down.
Summer is almost over and then that bliss full day when i can put on a light hoodie will be upon us!!!
Friday, July 12, 2013
First prenatal appointment
Yesterday, the husband and my self had a sorta unplanned prenatal appointment. My midwife had a baby on the day of our appointment, so we had to move it back to whatever date she was feeling up to coming out, and that day just so happened to be yesterday, three days after the birth of her 7th child! So she came over with her new little baby girl, and you forget how tiny they are when they are so new!!
She filled out my chart, and took blood pressure and listened to the baby's heart beat!! That is always a somewhat nerve wracking thing... no matter how many pregnancies i still get worried that they wont find the heart beat... even though i am sick, and my belly is obviously growing bigger... and she didn't find it immediately, so then i try to keep my internal worrier quite, but until you hear that little thump of horse hoofs it is ALL ANXIETY(on the inside at least, i think if i showed worry then the children and husband would get upset also, so i keep it to myself) and of course when she zeroed in on my little lemon sized baby, Murry kicked the Doppler and swam to another hiding spot!! a real confirmed actual kick! I suddenly felt quite blessed :)
My next appointment will be right before our trip to Louisiana. I also have to schedule an ultrasound to confirm that Murry, will be a Miranda and not a William<--husbands little joke (what is short for William) lets just say we are a big fan of ghost busters haha
I am thinking of having the ultrasound tech write the sex on a slip of paper and keeping it hidden until LA and then having my aunt bake a gender reveal cake, and cutting the cake at Sam Houston Jones whilst my parents are camping out there, maybe having a bit of a barbecue, think the kids would get a kick out of it!!
My only concern is if the cake is cut and it is blue there will be me a little on the disappointed side and that wont be much fun for anyone :/ Of course a baby boy will still be a blessing because gosh i love the little babies!!! but then if my whole family is there and they are all happy for another bouncing baby boy than i will likely be uplifted by their excitement.
Its such a silly concern but a concern none the less
At least worrying about the baby's gender has somewhat kept my mind off of the possibility of another baby with a birth defect, it is amazing how much a little bit of a defect like a deformed foot can make life immensely more difficult... in fact we will be taking a trip to Philly this coming Monday for just such defect and i am pretty excited about it, we are quite hopeful that it wont be misdiagnosed this time and maybe we will be fitting his feet in a proper pair of shoes in the near future!!
She filled out my chart, and took blood pressure and listened to the baby's heart beat!! That is always a somewhat nerve wracking thing... no matter how many pregnancies i still get worried that they wont find the heart beat... even though i am sick, and my belly is obviously growing bigger... and she didn't find it immediately, so then i try to keep my internal worrier quite, but until you hear that little thump of horse hoofs it is ALL ANXIETY(on the inside at least, i think if i showed worry then the children and husband would get upset also, so i keep it to myself) and of course when she zeroed in on my little lemon sized baby, Murry kicked the Doppler and swam to another hiding spot!! a real confirmed actual kick! I suddenly felt quite blessed :)
My next appointment will be right before our trip to Louisiana. I also have to schedule an ultrasound to confirm that Murry, will be a Miranda and not a William<--husbands little joke (what is short for William) lets just say we are a big fan of ghost busters haha
I am thinking of having the ultrasound tech write the sex on a slip of paper and keeping it hidden until LA and then having my aunt bake a gender reveal cake, and cutting the cake at Sam Houston Jones whilst my parents are camping out there, maybe having a bit of a barbecue, think the kids would get a kick out of it!!
My only concern is if the cake is cut and it is blue there will be me a little on the disappointed side and that wont be much fun for anyone :/ Of course a baby boy will still be a blessing because gosh i love the little babies!!! but then if my whole family is there and they are all happy for another bouncing baby boy than i will likely be uplifted by their excitement.
Its such a silly concern but a concern none the less
At least worrying about the baby's gender has somewhat kept my mind off of the possibility of another baby with a birth defect, it is amazing how much a little bit of a defect like a deformed foot can make life immensely more difficult... in fact we will be taking a trip to Philly this coming Monday for just such defect and i am pretty excited about it, we are quite hopeful that it wont be misdiagnosed this time and maybe we will be fitting his feet in a proper pair of shoes in the near future!!
Wednesday, July 10, 2013
BIRTH BASHING
Wow, so i just cant stand it anymore!!!!! i have to get it off my chest and my husband is tired of hearing me complain about it...
Excerpt from Anitra's webster
Birth bashing: when moms in the presence of a newly expecting mom/wife who is looking forward to having a child, talk about the worst birthing stories they have had or have heard from a friend
Man oh MANNNNNN does this make me mad
I have strong opinions about child birth and i tend to keep them to myself because one part of my opinion is there is no wrong way... this requires more explaining, but i will get to that later
Let me lay out the scenario:
Newly expecting first time mom sitting around chatting what lady's love to chat about
Experienced mom, starts in with: well i cant live without an epidural...in fact it is physically impossible for me to have a baby without one
another experienced mom chimes in: yeah my second child took 35 hours of laboring and i had to have 3 epidural 5 rounds of pitocine and then a c section because something to do with my physiology
first time mother looks scared so other mothers assure her she will be fine, as long as she doesn't have a home birth because she had a friend that almost died because her midwife was terrible
then another mom not to be outdone by these first stories starts talking about her terrible birth and how terrible the after pain was, and how her episiotomy was this and her d&c was that and how her body will never be the same and so on and so forth
End scenario
i am guilty of talking birth, i have bashed a few hospitals and nurses in my day, but never have i ever ever told anyone especially not a 1st time pregnant mom that birth is a horrible thing
I believe you should do what you think necessary to have your baby, every one is different and every one has their preferred or ideal birth... it is totally up to you what you want/need to do to get your little miracle out with the least bit of damage possible to your body or your baby
But I also believe that 98% percent of women can do it without meds and especially without surgical intervention
I cant stand hearing an expecting mom say, "that sounds terrible" or even "wow" or that look they get on their faces like what have i gotten myself into
i try to interject most of the times with... "its not that bad" and "you can do it without meds" but as soon as i start with the "well i did it three times without meds" i get those looks/eye rolls from the other moms, or the sly remarks like "well aren't you lucky"
Gosh i am not saying it because i want every one to think i am some super birther(though it is surprising how fast third baby's come out) i just want the conversation to go differently
Better Scenario:
Mom one says "oh you are expecting, how wonderful, i have this great midwife, and my birth was difficult but worth it"
Next mom "having your first baby is kinda scary cause you don't know what to expect, but you are going to kick but cause you are awesome"
Expecting mom "wow i hope so but i just am nervous cause i see such scary things on tv"
Other moms "tv blows it out of proportion, it really isn't that dramatic , i mean it is hard but if we couldn't do it then we wouldn't be here with 4 kids"
Me "just do what you think is right for you and your baby"
other moms agree and say comment on how worth it it is "the first time you see those little eye looking at you and your heart swells and you know that this is what maternal love feels like"
end scenario
So not as dramatic and kinda gushy, there is no reason why you cant punch it up with the funny stuff and maybe a "baby got stuck in one position" or "yes i had a c section but that happens sometime" but do we really need to scare the pants off of our new mothers NO
last time this happened( a few nights ago) i couldn't take it any more... i threw in a bunch reasoning phrases of: don't listen to hers and every loves dramatic stories, a couple of you can do anything you wants and sited some books... and stormed out and went home... frankly i am sick of hearing about dramatic birth stories
Here is my birth stories:
With every baby, all i wanted was for the dumb doctors to leave me alone so i can push my baby out... they cant keep their stupid hands off of you in the hospital so i spend most of my time telling them to leave me alone(the first two birth i was used as a training guide for new doctors, the lure of crazy hippy mom was too good to pass up i guess, and i am actually glad of it... this is what a real birth looks like NEWBS you can do it without epidurals and forceps), and then the contractions turn to that feeling of needing to push and i give it hell(probably more than i should cause i always pop blood vessels in my face) and have a baby and they are beautiful, and then they are whisked away quicker than i can spit instead of letting me just love and feed my new little delight... and they totally are a delight those first few weeks, when they eat sleep and poop... life is simple and their needs are simple and they are so wrinkles and cute... yes it is tiring and you feel like a zombie but it doesn't last forever... so this one i need to have at home so i can ensure that ALL my desires are met, i don't want the cord cut, i don't want the placenta yanked out, i don't want the baby to have a bath(until i can give her one), i want to cuddle her warm, without the use of those ridiculous incubator beds gosh i just want to do it how i feel i need to do it!!!!!!
i don't personally think that my story would scare any moms into having medical intervention... and if it did than i would keep my trap shut!!
So in a nut shell... America, and humans in general, thrive on drama, and bringing life into this world doesn't have to be dramatic, and i want old moms to stop scaring new moms, gosh there are so many other things to complain about ( like boobs, and wrinkles, and men) why do we focus on birth!!!
now i must go cook dinner... good bye
Excerpt from Anitra's webster
Birth bashing: when moms in the presence of a newly expecting mom/wife who is looking forward to having a child, talk about the worst birthing stories they have had or have heard from a friend
Man oh MANNNNNN does this make me mad
I have strong opinions about child birth and i tend to keep them to myself because one part of my opinion is there is no wrong way... this requires more explaining, but i will get to that later
Let me lay out the scenario:
Newly expecting first time mom sitting around chatting what lady's love to chat about
Experienced mom, starts in with: well i cant live without an epidural...in fact it is physically impossible for me to have a baby without one
another experienced mom chimes in: yeah my second child took 35 hours of laboring and i had to have 3 epidural 5 rounds of pitocine and then a c section because something to do with my physiology
first time mother looks scared so other mothers assure her she will be fine, as long as she doesn't have a home birth because she had a friend that almost died because her midwife was terrible
then another mom not to be outdone by these first stories starts talking about her terrible birth and how terrible the after pain was, and how her episiotomy was this and her d&c was that and how her body will never be the same and so on and so forth
End scenario
i am guilty of talking birth, i have bashed a few hospitals and nurses in my day, but never have i ever ever told anyone especially not a 1st time pregnant mom that birth is a horrible thing
I believe you should do what you think necessary to have your baby, every one is different and every one has their preferred or ideal birth... it is totally up to you what you want/need to do to get your little miracle out with the least bit of damage possible to your body or your baby
But I also believe that 98% percent of women can do it without meds and especially without surgical intervention
I cant stand hearing an expecting mom say, "that sounds terrible" or even "wow" or that look they get on their faces like what have i gotten myself into
i try to interject most of the times with... "its not that bad" and "you can do it without meds" but as soon as i start with the "well i did it three times without meds" i get those looks/eye rolls from the other moms, or the sly remarks like "well aren't you lucky"
Gosh i am not saying it because i want every one to think i am some super birther(though it is surprising how fast third baby's come out) i just want the conversation to go differently
Better Scenario:
Mom one says "oh you are expecting, how wonderful, i have this great midwife, and my birth was difficult but worth it"
Next mom "having your first baby is kinda scary cause you don't know what to expect, but you are going to kick but cause you are awesome"
Expecting mom "wow i hope so but i just am nervous cause i see such scary things on tv"
Other moms "tv blows it out of proportion, it really isn't that dramatic , i mean it is hard but if we couldn't do it then we wouldn't be here with 4 kids"
Me "just do what you think is right for you and your baby"
other moms agree and say comment on how worth it it is "the first time you see those little eye looking at you and your heart swells and you know that this is what maternal love feels like"
end scenario
So not as dramatic and kinda gushy, there is no reason why you cant punch it up with the funny stuff and maybe a "baby got stuck in one position" or "yes i had a c section but that happens sometime" but do we really need to scare the pants off of our new mothers NO
last time this happened( a few nights ago) i couldn't take it any more... i threw in a bunch reasoning phrases of: don't listen to hers and every loves dramatic stories, a couple of you can do anything you wants and sited some books... and stormed out and went home... frankly i am sick of hearing about dramatic birth stories
Here is my birth stories:
With every baby, all i wanted was for the dumb doctors to leave me alone so i can push my baby out... they cant keep their stupid hands off of you in the hospital so i spend most of my time telling them to leave me alone(the first two birth i was used as a training guide for new doctors, the lure of crazy hippy mom was too good to pass up i guess, and i am actually glad of it... this is what a real birth looks like NEWBS you can do it without epidurals and forceps), and then the contractions turn to that feeling of needing to push and i give it hell(probably more than i should cause i always pop blood vessels in my face) and have a baby and they are beautiful, and then they are whisked away quicker than i can spit instead of letting me just love and feed my new little delight... and they totally are a delight those first few weeks, when they eat sleep and poop... life is simple and their needs are simple and they are so wrinkles and cute... yes it is tiring and you feel like a zombie but it doesn't last forever... so this one i need to have at home so i can ensure that ALL my desires are met, i don't want the cord cut, i don't want the placenta yanked out, i don't want the baby to have a bath(until i can give her one), i want to cuddle her warm, without the use of those ridiculous incubator beds gosh i just want to do it how i feel i need to do it!!!!!!
i don't personally think that my story would scare any moms into having medical intervention... and if it did than i would keep my trap shut!!
So in a nut shell... America, and humans in general, thrive on drama, and bringing life into this world doesn't have to be dramatic, and i want old moms to stop scaring new moms, gosh there are so many other things to complain about ( like boobs, and wrinkles, and men) why do we focus on birth!!!
now i must go cook dinner... good bye
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